Many complain about how life is unfair, and many more think they are offering good advice by telling another life is as such. I usually keep quiet to these remarks, but my real feelings towards them can be elegantly expressed in three words; balls to you. Neither are those valid excuses for injustice, failure, or any other sort of misgivings, nor are they friendly advice that is worthy to be given.
This fatalism is unhelpful, if not detrimental to anyone. It signals a rejection towards an alternative course of action, is usually an attempt to enforce one’s false sense of worldliness on another, and is a snide remark to undermine one’s ability to accept the situation.
It is difficult, if not impossible to define true fairness; there are too many variables and subjectivity involved. Thus, it is extremely fallacious to brand the world, or life as unfair simply due to a particular situation. Insistence on this point just shows one’s narcissistic obsession on the immediacy whilst ignoring that which could have, or already had happened that is not observed.
The universe existed billions of years before an individual and will continue to be around for billions after. A particular event of unfairness might have its ramifications occurring at a much later time, or is itself a consequence of another event which occurred before. Just because one does not see the bigger picture, does not mean there is none.
Everyone is keenly aware of the apparent inequalities in life and in the world; there is little point in trying to further propagate this knowledge. Perhaps true fairness does not exist, perhaps it does, or perhaps the world is neither fair nor unfair, it just is. Our existent is such that any real objectivity is impossible, thus, fairness is relative and extremely subjective. Do me a favour, do not ever tell me life is unfair, and I will do the same. Each of us is capable of change.
Nightwings
